As I am single and searching for a suitable woman, I have now reviewed thousands of single female dating profiles. Based on more than a cursory examination, I am happy to report there is an incredible super-abundance of passion in America. I speculate that a concordance of the texts of online dating profiles would yield a leader board similar to this: PASSIONATE, CARING, GIVING, HEALTHY, FITNESS, DANCE, BEACH, SUNSET, YOGA.
A visual concordance of the photos women post with their profiles would result in these predominant image types: UNDEREXPOSED; OVEREXPOSED; 30 YEARS YOUNGER; 20 YEARS YOUNGER; 10 YEARS YOUNGER; A FURLONG AWAY; SUNGLASSES OBSCURING FACE; FUNNY HAT OBSCURING FACE; WITH YOUNGER, SLIMMER DAUGHTER; WITH BETTER LOOKING FRIEND(S); ON HORSE; ON HARLEY; IN KAYAK; ON TOP OF MOUNTAIN; AMPLE CLEAVAGE (NATURAL); PUMPED-UP CLEAVAGE (FAKE); IN FOREIGN LOCALE; GARDENING.
What is striking is that, almost without exception, women profile one or more passions. Yet, sadly, subsequent email exchanges indicate that for many of these women, passion was not the major characteristic of their previous relationships with men. Many report loveless or abusive marriages and personal journeys that were not previously inspired. I have the impression that women are so adamant about their passions as they seek new relationships precisely because they feel passion was missing from their prior lives.
For me, the question is this: can passion be engendered at the end of a relationship is it was lacking during the relationship? A simple answer is that passion previously suppressed in a relationship emerges unfettered when the relationship ends. Perhaps, but that explanation presents these difficulties: how can passion be suppressed and, if previously suppressed, is it not susceptible to being buried once more?
I have my suspicions but I do not know the answer. Living one’s passions may be a challenge unique to modern times because previous ages allowed less choice about how life could be lived. Even so, if one is possessed by a passion—for it seems one may not possess a passion—can one fail to live that passion? If such failure is possible, then are prospects for living by one’s passions greater in new relationships than in old?
As an optimist, I hope they are greater. I hope that people have learned the loss they have suffered in not living their passions. I hope that the incredible super-abundance of passion in America is just that and not sixties déjà vu all over again.
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